Many of us are unable to accept and take criticism in our stride. We are unable to learn and improve from such criticisms. This is perfectly understandable. Being criticized could even be comparable to speaking a sentence and getting a slap in your face. One may not realize his mistake and think that he is doing the right thing, hence, may not take the criticism lightly as they are unable to accept the fact that there might be an error with what they are doing of have done. Most of us are unable to take criticism lightly because of our pride. We do not want to admit that we have erred or that we have made a mistake, as we are afraid that by admitting that one has erred, it would make us seem weaker than everyone else. Some may even call it "humiliating" to admit to a mistake.
However, is admitting to one's mistake really something that make us seem weaker than others? Is it really humiliating to make an error. When one does not admit to his or her mistakes, it just makes him or her seem like a total sore loser.
Think of it this way. Everyone makes mistakes. By refusing to learn from one's mistake, or refusing to accept criticism, it is as if one was stating that he or she is the perfect person, someone who does not make ANY mistakes, someone who does not make ANY error, and someone who is ALWAYS right. I doubt that there is anyone on Earth that is perfect.
It is probably the fact that we do not have "perfect" people on Earth that we require the existence of criticism in the first place. With criticism, our flaws and weaknesses are pointed out. With the existence of criticism, we can hence learn from our mistakes and build on our weaknesses. Imagine that there is no one to show you your mistakes. Imagine that you are left to think that you are the best in the world. Imagine you are not shown the existence of errors. You would be left in your own little dream world of perfection and thinking that whatever you do is correct. You would be left to think that whatever others do, it would never surpass yours. You would be left to fall once someone does find a fatal flaw in whatever you do. Left to fall and left to die.
Criticism is ever so important to us. However, it depends on what the person's intentions are. Stop and think. Why did that person criticize my work? What are his or her intentions?
If someone just criticizes you so as to make you feel bad about yourself, so as to make you feel dejected, honestly speaking he is just scum. However, if that person actually cares about you and wants you to succeed, you should do well to heed his or her advice. If you are the one who is criticizing another person, stop and think before you act. Is what the other person is doing that unacceptable and wrong that you have to tell that person off? Put yourself in that person’s shoes. Would you get angry if another person told you off for something that you did? Remember that you must put your perspective from the other person’s point of view, not your own. You would naturally say that it is right to criticize the other person as you are not the person that is being criticized.
No comments:
Post a Comment